Excising the double negatives

My child is a picky eater and (like all toddlers) a wee bit whiny. It's very annoying and I've been trying to teach him to talk about what he wants instead of the constant no no no's. Complaining is like candy, it feels good for a little while but too much and you feel sick.

The problem with this whole scenario is the effort involved in being a good role model. Being bossy comes naturally to me, being positive? Not so much. A friend pointed out that even the way I generally ask my son to be positive is negative! "I don't want to hear what you don't want" is my go-to line. Notice the negative spin? Negativity is an clinger.

Just to be clear, I don't think it's realistic to not have complaints but I do think it's important to practice moving towards solutions. Don't go to your boss whining about problems, go in with a vision for how you think things could be better. Don't systematically reject everyone's ideas unless you are going to come up with one of your own and (attention toddlers), don't tell me that you don't want to eat something unless you are going to provide an alternative idea for dinner (not cookies/french fries).

Last week my friend Torrie wrote a great post about the busyness of the holidays and how she wanted to think about things she wanted to say yes to rather than worry about all the obligations she needed to say no to. What a great model! So today I'm following her lead, practicing my own advice and doing the same.

This Holiday Season I would like to:

  1. Put up simple unbreakable Christmas decorations and sparkly lights
  2. See my family
  3. Have whipped cream, spiked hot chocolate and eggnog with my friends
  4. Celebrate the New Year with Sparklers
  5. Go to church every Sunday
  6. Excercise when I can
  7. Take extra time to pray
  8. Light the advent candles with my family every Sunday
  9. Relax. Christmas is a time of peace, of waiting for Jesus. I want to choose peace and not crazy this year.
  10. Wear cozy pajamas cause baby it's cold outside!

How about you guys? What do you want to say yes to?

Posted on December 11, 2011 and filed under Uncategorized.